What if I can’t support myself financially?

If you are facing a separation and can’t support yourself financially, you should take immediate steps to determine if you are eligible for child and/or spousal support and, if so, file with the court for it or get an enforceable agreement with your spouse for support.

Child and spousal support laws vary by jurisdiction (state and country) and it is best to consult an attorney in your area about what your rights to support may be.  Oftentimes, there is a need to take immediate legal action to ensure you can get support effective right away, even if you have to wait for a hearing (at which retroactive support may be ordered).

Do not delay in investigating your support rights or stay in mediation for months if no progress toward an enforceable support agreement is being made.

You also might be in the position of needing to get a job, whether it be because you need help supplementing your support to meet your monthly expenses or because it is a legal expectation.  The idea of returning to the workforce, particularly after a long absence from it, may feel daunting and overwhelming, but maybe also a little exciting.  I enjoy helping women identify their strengths, skills, desires, as well as opportunities available to re-enter the workforce and work in a capacity that feeds their soul.  It can be incredibly helpful to have support in breaking down these tasks and taking the big step of beginning a new career, returning to a new career after an absence, or studying toward obtaining new knowledge and employment qualifications.


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Lauren Fair Coaching

I have been a divorce attorney for the past 12 years, running a highly successful boutique family law firm in Southern California. In addition to being a legal expert on divorce, I went through my own devastating divorce and re-built a life I love. Wherever you are on your divorce journey, I have either been there myself or helped clients who have been there.
Lauren Fair Coaching
Lauren Fair Coaching3 days ago
Whether you are going through a divorce or not, deciding, and then taking the time, to take care of yourself is essential.

I was definitely guilty of not taking care of myself for a long time. I put my clients, business, and others before me. For way too long. And I burned out big time before I realized I could not continue to put everyone and everything else before my own needs. I intelligently knew this before, but could not get myself out of the default hustle cycle and overwhelm it felt like I was drowning in. It took the forced slow-down of the pandemic lockdown for me to have the space to really feel in my bones the paramount need to prioritize caring for myself.

When you think of self-care, you may think of things like taking a bubble bath, going to the spa, reading a book on the beach, sleeping in, taking a walk, or having lunch with a friend.

These things are all AMAZING and if they feel fun and relaxing to you, you should totally do them. I do.

But, the most impactful act of self-care I have done was to hire a life coach. Getting coached every week is the single most important activity I have done that has enabled me to change my life so significantly. I empty out the thoughts in my brain like dumping purse contents out on a table, we look at them together, my coach helps me see what I am missing and what is possible, and we access my inner wisdom to strategize how to solve problems and move forward with and achieve my life and business goals.

The gift of a managed mind and having someone to point out my blind spots and offer new possibilities and perspectives has done more for my overall level of peace, calm, motivation, focus, and joy than any other tactic or activity I’ve tried.

And it’s what allowed me to see how much more I could serve my clients in the divorce space with these tools.

Do I still have bad days and negative emotions? Of course! Because, well, I have a human brain. But the coaching I receive and the self-coaching I do make all the difference in how I handle the good and the bad times for myself. And that, for me, is indispensable self-care. 💗

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