What if I can’t support myself financially?

If you are facing a separation and can’t support yourself financially, you should take immediate steps to determine if you are eligible for child and/or spousal support and, if so, file with the court for it or get an enforceable agreement with your spouse for support.

Child and spousal support laws vary by jurisdiction (state and country) and it is best to consult an attorney in your area about what your rights to support may be.  Oftentimes, there is a need to take immediate legal action to ensure you can get support effective right away, even if you have to wait for a hearing (at which retroactive support may be ordered).

Do not delay in investigating your support rights or stay in mediation for months if no progress toward an enforceable support agreement is being made.

You also might be in the position of needing to get a job, whether it be because you need help supplementing your support to meet your monthly expenses or because it is a legal expectation.  The idea of returning to the workforce, particularly after a long absence from it, may feel daunting and overwhelming, but maybe also a little exciting.  I enjoy helping people identify their strengths, skills, desires, as well as opportunities available to re-enter the workforce and work in a capacity that feeds their soul.  It can be incredibly helpful to have support in breaking down these tasks and taking the big step of beginning a new career, returning to a new career after an absence, or studying toward obtaining new knowledge and employment qualifications.


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Lauren Fair Coaching

As a Certified Life & Divorce Coach, I specialize in helping executive women to divorce confidently, calmly & efficiently while saving money on their attorney's fees. I have been a divorce attorney for the past 14 years and a partner in a highly successful boutique family law firm in Southern California. In addition to being a legal expert on divorce, I went through my own devastating divorce and re-built a life I love. Wherever you are on your divorce journey, I have either been there myself or helped clients who have been there. Learn more about me or grab your copy of my free guide to finding and hiring the right divorce attorney for you here: https://linktr.ee/laurenfair
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Lauren Fair Coaching3 weeks ago
One of the biggest mistakes you can make in a divorce is being overly confident that you will receive a more favorable resolution in court.

When you find yourself thinking in absolutes about how an issue will be resolved if taken to court (always, never), it is a smart move to stop and assess if you’re being overly optimistic about your position.

The situation is rarely as clear to the judge as it is to you. Even with a great attorney on your side, remember that the truth is often a matter of perception. Your perception likely differs from that of your ex. And the judge likely has a third perception.

Also, divorce law often does not account for emotional or moral issues. While your ex may have engaged in bad behavior, that may not necessarily mean you will get everything you expect in court.

Losing in court on an issue can change the dynamic of the situation and embolden your ex.

Realistic expectations save you time, money, and further unnecessary heartbreak. To have a successful divorce, it’s as important to know where your power isn’t as it is to know where it is. Seeking out, receiving, and heeding sound advice from professional experts will help you make smart, strategic decisions.

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