What if I can’t support myself financially?

If you are facing a separation and can’t support yourself financially, you should take immediate steps to determine if you are eligible for child and/or spousal support and, if so, file with the court for it or get an enforceable agreement with your spouse for support.

Child and spousal support laws vary by jurisdiction (state and country) and it is best to consult an attorney in your area about what your rights to support may be.  Oftentimes, there is a need to take immediate legal action to ensure you can get support effective right away, even if you have to wait for a hearing (at which retroactive support may be ordered).

Do not delay in investigating your support rights or stay in mediation for months if no progress toward an enforceable support agreement is being made.

You also might be in the position of needing to get a job, whether it be because you need help supplementing your support to meet your monthly expenses or because it is a legal expectation.  The idea of returning to the workforce, particularly after a long absence from it, may feel daunting and overwhelming, but maybe also a little exciting.  I enjoy helping women identify their strengths, skills, desires, as well as opportunities available to re-enter the workforce and work in a capacity that feeds their soul.  It can be incredibly helpful to have support in breaking down these tasks and taking the big step of beginning a new career, returning to a new career after an absence, or studying toward obtaining new knowledge and employment qualifications.


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Lauren Fair Coaching

I have been a divorce attorney for the past 12 years, running a highly successful boutique family law firm in Southern California. In addition to being a legal expert on divorce, I went through my own devastating divorce and re-built a life I love. Wherever you are on your divorce journey, I have either been there myself or helped clients who have been there.
Lauren Fair Coaching
Lauren Fair Coaching4 days ago
Did you know that the average time a person spends thinking about divorce before taking action is 2 years?

Whether to divorce is potentially one of the most impactful decisions you will make in your life, so it’s no surprise many people take their time considering it before moving forward.

When you’re contemplating divorce, you might not be sure what you really want. Or you may know what you want, but feel afraid to move forward with your decision. You may be hesitant to talk to friends or family about considering divorce for fear of being judged by them or being influenced by their opinion.

When you don’t have a neutral space to vent your thoughts and feelings about a possible divorce, it can delay your decision about whether to divorce and keep you in a state of limbo. You may feel isolated and like you’re spinning in indecision, which can drain your energy, create confusion, make you feel overwhelmed and stressed, and distract you from other important aspects of your life, like your work or your kids.

Divorce is an important decision not to be rushed or taken lightly. Your time here on Earth is limited. If divorce is on your mind, you owe it to yourself to consider it thoroughly and mindfully, but also to address it squarely and efficiently so you can either get back to a place where you can be all-in on the marriage, or get on with your next adventure.

If you need help exploring your options and processing your feelings about them, I can help. We’ll do that on the timeline that feels best for you. 💗


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