At what point should I give up?

Slow down, take your time, and thoroughly evaluate your situation. 

If you are uncertain as to whether you want to separate and you are not in a situation where your personal safety requires an immediate exit from the relationship and home, consider taking your time to sort through these thoughts and feelings first, and explore whether repairing the marriage is something you want and is feasible.  With guidance and expert input, mentally walk down the path of what the reality of divorcing would be.  Separating and divorcing are big decisions that have serious legal, financial, emotional, and practical consequences.  It is best to make this decision with eyes wide open or you may have surprises in your divorce process that could have been avoided.  It is often a worthwhile endeavor to really unpack your beliefs and perceptions about your partner and your marriage, to be at your best place emotionally in your current situation before you go about finalizing your decision about whether to change it, or your old problems may follow you to a new relationship.

Of course, in a domestic violence situation, personal safety comes first and immediate action should be taken to preserve that. If you have children and are unsure of their safety, you must also make their safety and well-being a priority!

Make sure you are safe at all times. Your safety and well-being is most important!

If you’re afraid for your personal safety, it may be a good idea to consult an attorney about what steps can be taken to preserve your personal safety and that of your children in advance of you communicating your decision to divorce to your spouse.  

If you decide to divorce, it is best to have a plan about what at least the first few months of separation will look like in terms of your housing, financial resources, and parenting time with your kids.




Lauren Fair Coaching

As a Certified Life & Divorce Coach, I specialize in helping executive women to divorce confidently, calmly & efficiently while saving money on their attorney's fees. I have been a divorce attorney for the past 14 years and a partner in a highly successful boutique family law firm in Southern California. In addition to being a legal expert on divorce, I went through my own devastating divorce and re-built a life I love. Wherever you are on your divorce journey, I have either been there myself or helped clients who have been there. Learn more about me or grab your copy of my free guide to finding and hiring the right divorce attorney for you here:
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Lauren Fair Coaching3 weeks ago
Happy 2023!

The beginning of each new year is the busiest time of year in the divorce business.

Many people contemplating divorce don't want to start down that road around the holidays.


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To walk a new path in life.

An unfamiliar path marked with uncertainty.

And you need a guide who gets it. Who has been there and back.

Someone who has not only traveled it.

But has helped hundreds of clients travel it confidently and sensibly.

And avoided costly wrong turns.

When the path is full of landmines and forks in the road, you don't want to wait until you've taken a costly misstep before getting the help you need.

But at the beginning while you're still planning and packing for the the trip. And mapping out the best route.

This is when you can get the most of divorce coaching. At the very outset.

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