At what point should I give up?

Slow down, take your time, and thoroughly evaluate your situation. 

If you are uncertain as to whether you want to separate and you are not in a situation where your personal safety requires an immediate exit from the relationship and home, consider taking your time to sort through these thoughts and feelings first, and explore whether repairing the marriage is something you want and is feasible.  With guidance and expert input, mentally walk down the path of what the reality of divorcing would be.  Separating and divorcing are big decisions that have serious legal, financial, emotional, and practical consequences.  It is best to make this decision with eyes wide open or you may have surprises in your divorce process that could have been avoided.  It is often a worthwhile endeavor to really unpack your beliefs and perceptions about your partner and your marriage, to be at your best place emotionally in your current situation before you go about finalizing your decision about whether to change it, or your old problems may follow you to a new relationship.

Of course, in a domestic violence situation, personal safety comes first and immediate action should be taken to preserve that. If you have children and are unsure of their safety, you must also make their safety and well-being a priority!

Make sure you are safe at all times. Your safety and well-being is most important!

If you’re afraid for your personal safety, it may be a good idea to consult an attorney about what steps can be taken to preserve your personal safety and that of your children in advance of you communicating your decision to divorce to your spouse.  

If you decide to divorce, it is best to have a plan about what at least the first few months of separation will look like in terms of your housing, financial resources, and parenting time with your kids.


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Lauren Fair Coaching

As a Certified Life & Divorce Coach, I specialize in helping executive women to divorce confidently, calmly & efficiently while saving money on their attorney's fees. I have been a divorce attorney for the past 14 years and a partner in a highly successful boutique family law firm in Southern California. In addition to being a legal expert on divorce, I went through my own devastating divorce and re-built a life I love. Wherever you are on your divorce journey, I have either been there myself or helped clients who have been there. Learn more about me or grab your copy of my free guide to finding and hiring the right divorce attorney for you here:
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Lauren Fair Coaching3 weeks ago
One of the biggest mistakes you can make in a divorce is being overly confident that you will receive a more favorable resolution in court.

When you find yourself thinking in absolutes about how an issue will be resolved if taken to court (always, never), it is a smart move to stop and assess if you’re being overly optimistic about your position.

The situation is rarely as clear to the judge as it is to you. Even with a great attorney on your side, remember that the truth is often a matter of perception. Your perception likely differs from that of your ex. And the judge likely has a third perception.

Also, divorce law often does not account for emotional or moral issues. While your ex may have engaged in bad behavior, that may not necessarily mean you will get everything you expect in court.

Losing in court on an issue can change the dynamic of the situation and embolden your ex.

Realistic expectations save you time, money, and further unnecessary heartbreak. To have a successful divorce, it’s as important to know where your power isn’t as it is to know where it is. Seeking out, receiving, and heeding sound advice from professional experts will help you make smart, strategic decisions.

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