At what point should I give up?

Slow down, take your time, and thoroughly evaluate your situation. 

If you are uncertain as to whether you want to separate and you are not in a situation where your personal safety requires an immediate exit from the relationship and home, consider taking your time to sort through these thoughts and feelings first, and explore whether repairing the marriage is something you want and is feasible.  With guidance and expert input, mentally walk down the path of what the reality of divorcing would be.  Separating and divorcing are big decisions that have serious legal, financial, emotional, and practical consequences.  It is best to make this decision with eyes wide open or you may have surprises in your divorce process that could have been avoided.  It is often a worthwhile endeavor to really unpack your beliefs and perceptions about your partner and your marriage, to be at your best place emotionally in your current situation before you go about finalizing your decision about whether to change it, or your old problems may follow you to a new relationship.

Of course, in a domestic violence situation, personal safety comes first and immediate action should be taken to preserve that. If you have children and are unsure of their safety, you must also make their safety and well-being a priority!

Make sure you are safe at all times. Your safety and well-being is most important!

If you’re afraid for your personal safety, it may be a good idea to consult an attorney about what steps can be taken to preserve your personal safety and that of your children in advance of you communicating your decision to divorce to your spouse.  

If you decide to divorce, it is best to have a plan about what at least the first few months of separation will look like in terms of your housing, financial resources, and parenting time with your kids.


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Lauren Fair Coaching

I have been a divorce attorney for the past 13 years, running a highly successful boutique family law firm in Southern California. In addition to being a legal expert on divorce, I went through my own devastating divorce and re-built a life I love. Wherever you are on your divorce journey, I have either been there myself or helped clients who have been there.
Lauren Fair Coaching
Lauren Fair Coaching1 month ago
Divorce is a traumatic life event.

A time during which your brain and your nervous system response to the conflict and intense emotions may not have you operating at your best.

Together, we can work to increase your effectiveness as a communicator who chooses how to respond versus react and to equip you to be a wise decision maker in the divorce process.

Why is that important? When you are unable to communicate effectively or make decisions efficiently and in alignment with your goals, you pay.

In both legal fees and in a compromised co-parenting dynamic that affects your daily life.

Schedule a consultation on my website to learn more about how I can help. 💕

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