At what point should I give up?

Take your time, and evaluate your situation. 

If you are uncertain as to whether you want to separate and you are not in a situation where your personal safety requires an immediate exit from the relationship and home, consider taking your time and really working through these thoughts and feelings first.  Separating and divorcing are big decisions that have serious legal, financial, emotional, and practical consequences.  If you run from one unhappy situation thinking that alone will make you happy, you may find you were wrong.  It is advisable to really unpack your beliefs and work on your mindset to learn to be at peace in your current situation before you go about changing it, or your old problems may follow you to the new situation.

Of course, in a domestic violence situation, personal safety comes first and immediate action should be taken to preserve that. If you have children and are unsure of their safety, you must also make their safety and well-being a priority!

Make sure you are safe at all times. Your safety and well-being is most important!

If you’re afraid, it may be a good idea to contact your local police department ahead of time and ask to speak to someone that can advise you, and be there for you when the time comes. It may be helpful if they know what to expect – before a situation escalates. They can also assist you with assistive services and getting a restraining order in a worst-case scenario, which I sincerely hope will not happen to you!

If you decide to divorce, it is best to have a plan about what at least the first few months of separation will look like in terms of your housing, financial resources, and parenting time with your kids.


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Lauren Fair Coaching

I have been a divorce attorney for the past 12 years, running a highly successful boutique family law firm in Southern California. In addition to being a legal expert on divorce, I went through my own devastating divorce and re-built a life I love. Wherever you are on your divorce journey, I have either been there myself or helped clients who have been there.
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Has your divorce been pending for what seems like forever?

You’re beyond ready to be done, but your soon-to-be ex is playing games and delaying the process.

Your friends are asking why your divorce isn’t done yet and you don’t really know how to explain it.

You never thought it would take this long and don’t understand why your lawyer can’t speed it along.

You’re starting to wonder if getting a new attorney might fix the problem.

Because having this process go on one more day seems unbearable.

There is so much uncertainty about your future because there are so many issues that STILL haven’t been resolved.

Moving on seems impossible with all of this still hanging over your head.

You’re unfocused and unproductive at work and at home, running the situation and all the unknowns in your mind

And if you get one more legal fee bill from your attorney with unexpected hourly charges for dealing with your ex’s attorney, you feel like you’re going to lose your shit.

You’re wondering …

When. Will. This. End.

And starting to question who to trust in this process and how much more of this you can take while maintaining some semblance of sanity.

If this is you, we should talk. 💗

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