At what point should I give up?

Take your time, and evaluate your situation. 

If you are uncertain as to whether you want to separate and you are not in a situation where your personal safety requires an immediate exit from the relationship and home, consider taking your time and really working through these thoughts and feelings first.  Separating and divorcing are big decisions that have serious legal, financial, emotional, and practical consequences.  If you run from one unhappy situation thinking that alone will make you happy, you may find you were wrong.  It is advisable to really unpack your beliefs and work on your mindset to learn to be at peace in your current situation before you go about changing it, or your old problems may follow you to the new situation.

Of course, in a domestic violence situation, personal safety comes first and immediate action should be taken to preserve that. If you have children and are unsure of their safety, you must also make their safety and well-being a priority!

Make sure you are safe at all times. Your safety and well-being is most important!

If you’re afraid, it may be a good idea to contact your local police department ahead of time and ask to speak to someone that can advise you, and be there for you when the time comes. It may be helpful if they know what to expect – before a situation escalates. They can also assist you with assistive services and getting a restraining order in a worst-case scenario, which I sincerely hope will not happen to you!

If you decide to divorce, it is best to have a plan about what at least the first few months of separation will look like in terms of your housing, financial resources, and parenting time with your kids.


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Lauren Fair Coaching

I have been a divorce attorney for the past 12 years, running a highly successful boutique family law firm in Southern California. In addition to being a legal expert on divorce, I went through my own devastating divorce and re-built a life I love. Wherever you are on your divorce journey, I have either been there myself or helped clients who have been there.
Lauren Fair Coaching
Lauren Fair Coaching4 days ago
Did you know that the average time a person spends thinking about divorce before taking action is 2 years?

Whether to divorce is potentially one of the most impactful decisions you will make in your life, so it’s no surprise many people take their time considering it before moving forward.

When you’re contemplating divorce, you might not be sure what you really want. Or you may know what you want, but feel afraid to move forward with your decision. You may be hesitant to talk to friends or family about considering divorce for fear of being judged by them or being influenced by their opinion.

When you don’t have a neutral space to vent your thoughts and feelings about a possible divorce, it can delay your decision about whether to divorce and keep you in a state of limbo. You may feel isolated and like you’re spinning in indecision, which can drain your energy, create confusion, make you feel overwhelmed and stressed, and distract you from other important aspects of your life, like your work or your kids.

Divorce is an important decision not to be rushed or taken lightly. Your time here on Earth is limited. If divorce is on your mind, you owe it to yourself to consider it thoroughly and mindfully, but also to address it squarely and efficiently so you can either get back to a place where you can be all-in on the marriage, or get on with your next adventure.

If you need help exploring your options and processing your feelings about them, I can help. We’ll do that on the timeline that feels best for you. 💗

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