Helping Executive Women to . . .

Divorce Confidently, Efficiently, and Civilly

While Saving Money Throughout the Process

I’ve been there myself and have helped hundreds of people successfully navigate their divorces as a divorce lawyer and now as a coach. I know the ins and outs of divorce and where people make costly mistakes I can help you avoid.

Helping Executive Women to . . .

Divorce Confidently, Efficiently, and Civilly

While Saving Money Throughout the Process

I’ve been there myself and have helped hundreds of people successfully navigate their divorces as a divorce lawyer and now as a coach. I know the ins and outs of divorce and where people make costly mistakes I can help you avoid.

Hello there!  I’m Lauren Fair.

Divorce or family separation is a highly emotional, life-changing event.  I help people to divorce confidently, efficiently, and civilly.  Double-certified as a life coach and a divorce coach with an extensive background as a divorce attorney and mediator, I help clients conquer overwhelm, learn to navigate the complex legal system, gain clarity on where to put their attention and resources in the process, feel better, and create a post-divorce life they are excited to live.  

I have been a divorce attorney for the past 14 years, running a highly successful boutique family law firm in Southern California. In addition to being a legal expert on divorce, I went through my own devastating divorce and re-built a life I love. Wherever you are on your divorce journey, I have either been there myself or helped clients who have been there.  I help my clients navigate these all-consuming and uncertain times with non-judgmental support and savvy expertise so they can move boldly forward to healing and living aligned, peaceful, fulfilling lives in their next chapter.

One of the most rewarding aspects of my career as a lawyer has been seeing the change in my clients from when I start working with them, oftentimes at the beginning of their family separation, to their life post-divorce. Many of them have remarked how grateful they were to have me by their side through the isolating, winding, and often-complicated and confusing divorce process.

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Support through all stages

Pre-Divorce

  • Deciding to Divorce or to Stay

  • Preparing for Divorce Like a Pro

  • Learning How to Thrive During Divorce

  • Building Your Divorce Team

  • Choosing Your Divorce Path

Maybe you are struggling with whether to get a divorce and need help deciding whether to stay or go.  I can help you get to the heart of what you truly desire and process your thoughts and feelings in order to make your own informed decisions and really understand and like your reasons for them. Whether you decide to stay or to go, I can show you how to make a powerful shift in your mindset that can help improve your existing relationship or help you better navigate the separation.

Perhaps your spouse wants a divorce and you don’t.  You’re sad and overwhelmed.  Life is not turning out the way you expected.  You are thinking about splitting parenting time and holidays with your kids with your future ex-spouse and find yourself gutted and resentful.  

Mid-Divorce

  • Reconnecting to Yourself & Finding Your New Identity Outside Your Marriage

  • Crafting Your Personalized Divorce Strategy

  • Smartly Managing the Legal Process

  • Healing & Processing Emotional Roadblocks

  • Creating Your Aligned Future

  • Navigating Co-Parenting & Setting Boundaries

Are you already going through a divorce and feel like you are lost or drowning?  Maybe you are finding yourself sobbing while driving to work or after dropping off the kids at school – wondering when it will be over and when your pain will go away.  You feel like you have exhausted your family and friends and need somewhere else to turn.  You need someone to listen to you, not judge you, and guide you through this difficult chapter and on to a better one, which sometimes is hard to envision will ever happen.  Perhaps you are embarking on new divorce-related tasks, like re-entering the workforce or starting a new business, for example, and are overwhelmed and stuck in inaction.  I can help you.

I am well versed in the business of divorce and I can help you build a support team and educate you on ways to efficiently handle your legal and financial advisors to help minimize the overall costs of the divorce. 

Post-Divorce

  • Moving On with Grace & Purpose

  • Re-Entering the Workforce

  • Dating After Divorce

  • Managing Post-Judgment Court Proceedings

Or maybe your divorce just ended last week, or 10 years ago, and you feel like you have unresolved issues preventing you from having the life you want.  It could be that you are trying to navigate co-parenting with an uncooperative ex or your child to whom you have been the primary parent their whole life is a teenager now and has decided to live with your ex.  Perhaps you’re heading back into the dating scene and are terrified at the prospect of dating after being with one person for so long or you want to lose that 15 pounds you put on during the decline of the marriage, but can’t seem to get started.  We can work together to get clear on what your goals are for your next chapter and move forward with enthusiasm and optimism about the new opportunity you have to re-design your life to fit and fulfill your greatest needs and desires.

I’m here to help you.

I became a coach to focus more of my time and expertise on supporting people through major life changes that are isolating and daunting to conquer alone by filling the gap between the services provided to clients by a therapist and those provided by an attorney.  Whether you are worried about finances, your kids, retirement, the legal divorce process, healing from the pain of the separation, or just the future in general, I can help you navigate the business of divorce and the lived experience of divorce.  I have been on this emotional rollercoaster and I can help you expedite your return to the station and disembark.

I am here to help you strategize, cope, and succeed in your divorce, and to move forward with confidence to create a post-divorce life you are excited to live.

Private 1:1 Coaching

Because I’ve been in your shoes, I know how important it is to have someone you can count on and trust!

I offer one-on-one personal coaching through my 6-month divorce coaching program, The Sensible Split, which includes:

  • Private coaching sessions via Zoom to help you divorce with confidence, courage, and clarity
  • Educational video modules to elevate your knowledge on topics that will help guide you successfully through your divorce journey
  • A workbook of self-discovery prompts to enrich your learning about yourself and the process

My coaching program is perfect for you if:

  • You are in the early stages or the middle of the divorce process.
  • You are overwhelmed or intimidated by the unfamiliar legal process of divorce.
  • You are out of touch with you are as an individual or what you want outside of your marriage.
  • You want an unbiased and knowledgeable thinking partner to help you make efficient and sound decisions throughout the process.
  • You want to get through the legal process faster, less expensively, and more confidently.
  • You need a safe space to vent your feelings and experiences without fear of judgment and receive support.
  • You want to identify and clear emotional blocks to approaching your divorce proceeding from an empowered place.
  • You are ready to find your power to help you handle circumstances over which you have no control.
  • You are committed to being coachable and taking action to create the results you want as you navigate this important life transition.
  • You may need connecting with top-tier attorneys, therapists, and other professionals you may need along the way.
  • You want to learn to navigate co-parenting without going crazy.
  • You need help learning about the business of divorce and getting organized for the legal process to reduce reliance on your attorney and reduce legal fees.
  • You need to re-enter the workplace or build a new business.
  • You don’t know how to slow down and prioritize yourself.
  • You’re having trouble envisioning a happy future for yourself beyond your divorce.

Some of the results clients may achieve through my divorce coaching services include:

  • Less money spent on divorce process
  • Less uncertainty and increased knowledge about legal process and options
  • Faster, more organized, and more efficient legal process
  • Clearer and more effective communication with and use of attorney
  • More peaceful co-parenting dynamic
  • Lessened effect of divorce on the children
  • Reduced negative impact of divorce on friends/family relationships
  • Increased confidence and efficiency in making decisions in long-term best interest of client vs. making decisions from overly emotional space
  • Clarity on whether to proceed with divorce or work on the marriage (if relevant)
  • Quicker processing of end of relationship with spouse
  • Increased self-confidence & self-trust
  • Being less reactive and more in control
  • Increased focus and calm re carrying on with aspects of life outside of divorce/keep divorce from being all-consuming
  • Less time wasted in overwhelm & confusion
  • Increased ability to cope without overeating, overdrinking, overworking, etc.
  • More confident re-entry into dating and/or the workforce
  • Feeling supported in the transition
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Divorce is a plot twist – not the end of your story. It can be a life-changing opportunity to grow, evolve, rediscover your values, reconnect with your soul, revive your spirit, and come out ahead in ways you never thought possible.

I was there.

When I married my first husband, I thought I had it all going for me.  I was checking off all the boxes on the checklist of what we are told we should be achieving to be successful – get a good education and a career, fall in love, get married, buy a house, – and of course, we’d have kids, eventually grandkids, and be sitting next to each other in our rocking chairs on our front porch in our old age.  I thought I had the rest of my life figured out.

Until one day it all came crashing down.  I found myself brokenhearted, initiating a divorce I never envisioned, grieving the loss of him as my constant companion and the future we would never have together, facing financial ruin, feeling like a complete failure, terrified of starting over, overworking to avoid my pain, and sometimes struggling to get through the day or believe that I would ever be happy again.  I suffered longer than I had to, and I didn’t really see any way to get past what I was feeling.

Now, I’m here.

It wasn’t until I sought out someone who could help me gain a different perspective that I was able to heal and fully realize how my ex-husband and I were catalysts for each other’s growth for reasons I couldn’t see at the time.

More than ten years later, having successfully navigated my divorce to a place of peace and gratitude, living a life I love again, and having helped hundreds of other people through the legal process, I coach others who do not want the divorce to define their lives but be an opportunity to grow and discover the next version of themselves.

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What initial steps should I take if I’m considering divorce?


1

Hire a Coach

Guidance, Support, Clarity, Confidence, and Emotional Strength

If you are considering divorce, you may be feeling a rollercoaster of emotions. You may be uncertain, confused, and overwhelmed, which often leads to being frozen in inaction. This can be a very isolating time and without the right support, the effects of these feelings can bleed over into other areas of your life and wreak havoc on your emotional, mental, and even physical well-being. You can talk to your family and friends, but they often have their own biased opinions about your situation they feel free to share and may not provide you a safe, neutral space to help you process your feelings or share sensitive information confidentially. A divorce coach can help you process your emotions, make the decisions about whether you want to stay or want to go if you are unclear, and help you make the decision with eyes wide open – that is, with a fuller picture of what it would look like to move forward with divorcing.  As your coach, I can help you with a myriad of issues as you work to repair the marriage or move forward through the divorce and into your next chapter.


2

Gather Relevant Financial Documents

Get Prepared

In order to prepare to receive some preliminary legal advice and education on what it would be like, financially, to divorce, you should gather at least the following financial documents, if possible, for each spouse:

  • Tax returns for the last 3 years
  • W-2s and/or 1099s for the last 3 years
  • Pay stubs for the last 2 months
  • Current bank statements
  • Current retirement account statements
  • Current mortgage statement
  • Year-to-date profit and loss statement of either party is self-employed

These documents will allow an attorney to have a basic understanding of your financial circumstances and assist you in making some preliminary assessments about property division and child and spousal support in your situation.


3

Consult a Family Law Attorney

Bring in an Expert

I often hear from coaching clients, “Well, I don’t know if I need an attorney.” It is always a good idea to at least have a consultation with an experienced family law attorney in your area so you can get educated on the divorce process and expected timeline, have your questions answered, and learn about issues that may exist in your case you had perhaps not even been aware of that need to be addressed. Do not equate the value of a consultation with a family law attorney with your ability to do a Google search on divorce-related topics or ask a friend what happened in their divorce. On occasion, I have had clients in my litigation practice tell me they read this or that on the internet or that their friend told them this or that and whatever that advice was was almost always wrong and caused the client to have misinformed expectations.

Many attorneys offer free consultations, so there can be no cost downside to just obtaining the information they have to share. I have had many potential clients tell me at the end of our consultations that they just felt better and relieved because they had learned so much on our call and it helped put their mind at ease as to what to expect as they move through the case, regardless of whether they decided to move forward with legal representation. It can also help eliminate a spouse’s ability to effectively intimidate or control you with threats they cannot legally carry out. (Think: “I am going to take the kids away from you!” Or, “If you leave, you will never get spousal support from me!”)

Finally, it is less expensive to hire a qualified attorney to do the job right the first time than to pay one later to try to undo and redo what you did wrong on your own.  I help clients build their divorce team if they do not already have one so they get the best support and advice possible in the process.

1 – Hire a Coach

Guidance, Support, Clarity, Confidence, and Emotional Strength

If you are considering divorce, you may be feeling a rollercoaster of emotions. You may be uncertain, confused, and overwhelmed, which often leads to being frozen in inaction. This can be a very isolating time and without the right support, the effects of these feelings can bleed over into other areas of your life and wreak havoc on your emotional, mental, and even physical well-being. You can talk to your family and friends, but they often have their own biased opinions about your situation they feel free to share and may not provide you a safe, neutral space to help you process your feelings or share sensitive information confidentially. A divorce coach can help you process your emotions, make the decisions about whether you want to stay or want to go if you are unclear, and help you make the decision with eyes wide open – that is, with a fuller picture of what it would look like to move forward with divorcing. As your coach, I can help you with a myriad of issues as you work to repair the marriage or move forward through the divorce and into your next chapter.

2 – Gather Relevant Financial Documents

Get Prepared

In order to prepare to receive some preliminary legal advice and education on what it would be like, financially, to divorce, you should gather at least the following financial documents, if possible, for each spouse:

  • Tax returns for the last 3 years
  • W-2s and/or 1099s for the last 3 years
  • Pay stubs for the last 2 months
  • Current bank statements
  • Current retirement account statements
  • Current mortgage statement
  • Year-to-date profit and loss statement of either party is self-employed

These documents will allow an attorney to have a basic understanding of your financial circumstances and assist you in making some preliminary assessments about property division and child and spousal support in your situation.

3 – Consult a Family Law Attorney

Bring in an Expert

I often hear from coaching clients, “Well, I don’t know if I need an attorney.” It is always a good idea to at least have a consultation with an experienced family law attorney in your area so you can get educated on the divorce process and expected timeline, have your questions answered, and learn about issues that may exist in your case you had perhaps not even been aware of that need to be addressed. Do not equate the value of a consultation with a family law attorney with your ability to do a Google search on divorce-related topics or ask a friend what happened in their divorce. On occasion, I have had clients in my litigation practice tell me they read this or that on the internet or that their friend told them this or that and whatever that advice was was almost always wrong and caused the client to have misinformed expectations.

Many attorneys offer free consultations, so there can be no cost downside to just obtaining the information they have to share. I have had many potential clients tell me at the end of our consultations that they just felt better and relieved because they had learned so much on our call and it helped put their mind at ease as to what to expect as they move through the case, regardless of whether they decided to move forward with legal representation. It can also help eliminate a spouse’s ability to effectively intimidate or control you with threats they cannot legally carry out. (Think: “I am going to take the kids away from you!” Or, “If you leave, you will never get spousal support from me!”)

Finally, it is less expensive to hire a qualified attorney to do the job right the first time than to pay one later to try to undo and redo what you did wrong on your own.  I help clients build their divorce team if they do not already have one so they get the best support and advice possible in the process.

I often get asked…

At what point should I give up?

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Should we mediate our divorce?

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Will I lose my home?

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What if I can’t support myself financially?

If you are facing a separation or divorce and may not be able to support yourself financially, you should take immediate steps to determine what you’re eligible for…
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I’m getting remarried. Should I get a prenuptial agreement?

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How do I select the best divorce attorney for me?

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We will discuss what brings you to the call and explore what you would like to achieve through coaching. Then, we will look at whether it makes sense to work together, and I can help you make a decision that feels best for you.

Request a Consultation with Lauren

We will discuss what brings you to the call and explore what you would like to achieve through coaching. Then, we will look at whether it makes sense to work together, and I can help you make a decision that feels best for you.

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