Helping Women to

Divorce Confidently and Sensibly

While Saving Money Throughout the Process

If you need help navigating the legal process and the
lived experience of divorce, you’re in the right place.

Helping Women to

Divorce Confidently and Sensibly

While Saving Money Throughout the Process

If you need help navigating the legal process and the
lived experience of divorce, you’re in the right place.

Hello there!  I’m Lauren Fair.

Divorce is a highly emotional, life-changing, and traumatic event.

When you said, “I do”, you probably never anticipated facing divorce.  If you’re overwhelmed by the legal process, worried about your personal finances, deeply uncertain about your future, concerned about whether your children will be okay, stressed about the logistics of the transition, or even unsure if you want to divorce at all, I’m glad you’re here.

I help smart women to divorce confidently and sensibly.

Double-certified as a Master Life Coach and Divorce Coach with an extensive background as a divorce attorney and mediator, I can help you conquer overwhelm, learn to navigate the complex legal system and how to best manage your attorney, gain clarity on where to put your attention and resources in the process, make grounded decisions, learn to co-parent, and feel better.

Once you’re through the storm, we’ll rebuild a life you are excited to live.

Ready to hire an attorney?

If you’re ready to start the legal process, but you’re not sure where to begin or find the right attorney, you’re not alone!  I created a guide that can help point you in the right direction. Just enter your email and name – and the download will head your way momentarily. (And don’t worry – I won’t be sharing your info with anyone else.)

How I Can Support You

Pre-Divorce

  • Deciding to Divorce or to Stay

  • Preparing for Divorce Like a Pro

  • Learning How to Cope During Divorce

  • Building Your Divorce Team

  • Choosing Your Divorce Path

If you are struggling with whether to get a divorce and need help deciding whether to stay or go, I can help you make the best decision for you.  Whether you decide to stay or to go, we will devise a strategy for success for whichever path you are on.

If you’ve already decided to divorce, but have not initiated the legal process, this is the best time in the process to hire a coach to avoid costly mistakes.  We can work together to build your team, whether large or small, and set you up as best as possible for a successful result.

Mid-Divorce

  • Reconnecting to Yourself & Finding Your New Identity Outside Your Marriage

  • Crafting Your Personalized Divorce Strategy

  • Smartly Managing the Legal Process

  • Healing & Processing Emotional Roadblocks

  • Planning for the Future

  • Navigating Co-Parenting & Setting Boundaries

Are you already going through a divorce and feel like you are lost or drowning?  Maybe you are finding yourself sobbing while driving to work or after dropping off the kids at school – wondering when it will be over and when your pain will go away.  You feel like you have exhausted your family and friends and need somewhere else to turn.  You need someone to listen to you, not judge you, and guide you through this difficult chapter and on to a better one, which sometimes is hard to envision will ever happen.  I can help you.

I am well versed in the business of divorce.  I can help you:

  • Build a support team
  • Educate you on ways to efficiently handle your legal and financial advisors to help minimize the overall costs of the divorce
  • Strategize
  • Document and collect evidence
  • Learn to co-parent to mitigate the impact of the transition on your children
  • Harness the power of your emotions

Post-Divorce

  • Rebuilding Better

  • Moving On with Grace & Purpose

  • Re-Entering the Workforce

  • Dating After Divorce

  • Managing Post-Judgment Court Proceedings

If you are already divorced and you feel like you have unresolved issues preventing you from having the life you want, let’s talk.  It could be that you are trying to navigate co-parenting with an uncooperative ex.  Perhaps you’re heading back into the dating scene and are terrified at the prospect of dating after being with one person for so long.  Or you want to lose that 15 pounds you put on during the decline of the marriage, but can’t seem to get started.  Or you want to build a business to give you greater financial freedom and time with your kids, but are afraid to make the leap.  We can work together to get clear on what your goals are for your next chapter and move forward with enthusiasm and optimism about the new opportunity you have to re-design your life to fit and fulfill your greatest needs and desires.

I’m here to help you.

I became a coach to focus more of my time and expertise on supporting people through major life changes that are isolating and daunting to conquer alone by filling the gap between the services provided to clients by a therapist and those provided by an attorney.  Whether you are worried about finances, your kids, retirement, the legal divorce process, healing from the pain of the separation, or just the future in general, I can help you navigate the business of divorce and the lived experience of divorce.  I have been on this emotional rollercoaster and I can help you expedite your return to the station and disembark.

I am here to help you strategize, cope, and succeed in your divorce, and to move forward with confidence to create a post-divorce life you are excited to live.

Private 1:1 Coaching

Because I’ve been in your shoes, I know how important it is to have someone you can count on and trust!

I offer one-on-one personal coaching to clients anticipating, going through, or recovering from divorce.

Divorce is a plot twist – not the end of your story. It can be a life-changing opportunity to grow, evolve, rediscover your values, reconnect with your soul, revive your spirit, and come out ahead in ways you never thought possible.

I was there.

When I married my first husband, I thought I had it all going for me.  I was checking off all the boxes on the checklist of what we are told we should be achieving to be successful – get a good education and a career, fall in love, get married, buy a house, – and of course, we’d have kids, eventually grandkids, and be sitting next to each other in our rocking chairs on our front porch in our old age.  I thought I had the rest of my life figured out.

Until one day it all came crashing down.  I found myself brokenhearted, initiating a divorce I never envisioned, grieving the loss of him as my constant companion and the future we would never have together, facing financial ruin, feeling like a complete failure, terrified of starting over, overworking to avoid my pain, and sometimes struggling to get through the day or believe that I would ever be happy again.  I suffered longer than I had to, and I didn’t really see any way to get past what I was feeling.

Now, I’m here.

It wasn’t until I sought out someone who could help me gain a different perspective that I was able to heal and fully realize how my ex-husband and I were catalysts for each other’s growth for reasons I couldn’t see at the time.

More than ten years later, having successfully navigated my divorce to a place of peace and gratitude, living a life I love again, and having helped hundreds of other people through the legal process, I coach others who do not want the divorce to define their lives but be an opportunity to grow and discover the next version of themselves.

Client Love

What initial steps should I take if I’m considering divorce?


1

Hire a Coach

Guidance, Support, Clarity, Confidence, and Emotional Strength

If you are considering divorce, you may be feeling a rollercoaster of emotions. You may be uncertain, confused, and overwhelmed, which often leads to being frozen in inaction. This can be a very isolating time and without the right support, the effects of these feelings can bleed over into other areas of your life and wreak havoc on your emotional, mental, and even physical well-being. You can talk to your family and friends, but they often have their own biased opinions about your situation they feel free to share and may not provide you a safe, neutral space to help you process your feelings or share sensitive information confidentially. A divorce coach can help you process your emotions, make the decisions about whether you want to stay or want to go if you are unclear, and help you make the decision with eyes wide open – that is, with a fuller picture of what it would look like to move forward with divorcing.  As your coach, I can help you with a myriad of issues as you work to repair the marriage or move forward through the divorce and into your next chapter.


2

Gather Relevant Financial Documents

Get Prepared

In order to prepare to receive some preliminary legal advice and education on what it would be like, financially, to divorce, you should gather at least the following financial documents, if possible, for each spouse:

  • Tax returns for the last 3 years
  • W-2s and/or 1099s for the last 3 years
  • Pay stubs for the last 2 months
  • Current bank statements
  • Current retirement account statements
  • Current mortgage statement
  • Year-to-date profit and loss statement of either party is self-employed

These documents will allow an attorney to have a basic understanding of your financial circumstances and assist you in making some preliminary assessments about property division and child and spousal support in your situation.


3

Consult a Family Law Attorney

Bring in an Expert

I often hear from coaching clients, “Well, I don’t know if I need an attorney.” It is always a good idea to at least have a consultation with an experienced family law attorney in your area so you can get educated on the divorce process and expected timeline, have your questions answered, and learn about issues that may exist in your case you had perhaps not even been aware of that need to be addressed. Do not equate the value of a consultation with a family law attorney with your ability to do a Google search on divorce-related topics or ask a friend what happened in their divorce. On occasion, I have had clients in my litigation practice tell me they read this or that on the internet or that their friend told them this or that and whatever that advice was was almost always wrong and caused the client to have misinformed expectations.

Many attorneys offer free consultations, so there can be no cost downside to just obtaining the information they have to share. I have had many potential clients tell me at the end of our consultations that they just felt better and relieved because they had learned so much on our call and it helped put their mind at ease as to what to expect as they move through the case, regardless of whether they decided to move forward with legal representation. It can also help eliminate a spouse’s ability to effectively intimidate or control you with threats they cannot legally carry out. (Think: “I am going to take the kids away from you!” Or, “If you leave, you will never get spousal support from me!”)

Finally, it is less expensive to hire a qualified attorney to do the job right the first time than to pay one later to try to undo and redo what you did wrong on your own.  I help clients build their divorce team if they do not already have one so they get the best support and advice possible in the process.

1 – Hire a Coach

Guidance, Support, Clarity, Confidence, and Emotional Strength

If you are considering divorce, you may be feeling a rollercoaster of emotions. You may be uncertain, confused, and overwhelmed, which often leads to being frozen in inaction. This can be a very isolating time and without the right support, the effects of these feelings can bleed over into other areas of your life and wreak havoc on your emotional, mental, and even physical well-being. You can talk to your family and friends, but they often have their own biased opinions about your situation they feel free to share and may not provide you a safe, neutral space to help you process your feelings or share sensitive information confidentially. A divorce coach can help you process your emotions, make the decisions about whether you want to stay or want to go if you are unclear, and help you make the decision with eyes wide open – that is, with a fuller picture of what it would look like to move forward with divorcing. As your coach, I can help you with a myriad of issues as you work to repair the marriage or move forward through the divorce and into your next chapter.

2 – Gather Relevant Financial Documents

Get Prepared

In order to prepare to receive some preliminary legal advice and education on what it would be like, financially, to divorce, you should gather at least the following financial documents, if possible, for each spouse:

  • Tax returns for the last 3 years
  • W-2s and/or 1099s for the last 3 years
  • Pay stubs for the last 2 months
  • Current bank statements
  • Current retirement account statements
  • Current mortgage statement
  • Year-to-date profit and loss statement of either party is self-employed

These documents will allow an attorney to have a basic understanding of your financial circumstances and assist you in making some preliminary assessments about property division and child and spousal support in your situation.

3 – Consult a Family Law Attorney

Bring in an Expert

I often hear from coaching clients, “Well, I don’t know if I need an attorney.” It is always a good idea to at least have a consultation with an experienced family law attorney in your area so you can get educated on the divorce process and expected timeline, have your questions answered, and learn about issues that may exist in your case you had perhaps not even been aware of that need to be addressed. Do not equate the value of a consultation with a family law attorney with your ability to do a Google search on divorce-related topics or ask a friend what happened in their divorce. On occasion, I have had clients in my litigation practice tell me they read this or that on the internet or that their friend told them this or that and whatever that advice was was almost always wrong and caused the client to have misinformed expectations.

Many attorneys offer free consultations, so there can be no cost downside to just obtaining the information they have to share. I have had many potential clients tell me at the end of our consultations that they just felt better and relieved because they had learned so much on our call and it helped put their mind at ease as to what to expect as they move through the case, regardless of whether they decided to move forward with legal representation. It can also help eliminate a spouse’s ability to effectively intimidate or control you with threats they cannot legally carry out. (Think: “I am going to take the kids away from you!” Or, “If you leave, you will never get spousal support from me!”)

Finally, it is less expensive to hire a qualified attorney to do the job right the first time than to pay one later to try to undo and redo what you did wrong on your own.  I help clients build their divorce team if they do not already have one so they get the best support and advice possible in the process.

I often get asked…

At what point should I give up?

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Should we mediate our divorce?

Is mediation right for your and your spouse? It depends on your circumstances and how you envision utilizing mediation in the process of resolving your case…
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Will I lose my home?

Whether you will be able to keep your home depends on a number of factors, primarily financial in nature. Let’s explore some relevant things to consider…
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What if I can’t support myself financially?

If you are facing a separation or divorce and may not be able to support yourself financially, you should take immediate steps to determine what you’re eligible for…
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I’m getting remarried. Should I get a prenuptial agreement?

If you’ve been around the marriage block before, you already know first-hand that not all marriages have a fairy tale ending…
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How do I select the best divorce attorney for me?

Finding the right attorney for you can be hard, especially when you don’t know where to start! To assist you, I put together a guide with the key things that can get you pointed in the right direction…
Download Guide »

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We will discuss what brings you to the call and explore what you would like to achieve through coaching. Then, we will look at whether it makes sense to work together, and I can help you make a decision that feels best for you.

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